Facts About Nigerian Women
She is an epitome of beauty, intelligence, wisdom, and faith. She is the Nigerian woman. Yet, to define her is to celebrate her diversity, because not one is the same. Thanks to the richness of a land forged from the union of hundreds of cultures, Nigerian women come in different shapes, colors, and drives. While each one is unique, there are common threads of culture, priority, and values that connect them. Below are some facts about the things that are irreplaceable to the modern Nigerian woman.
MONEY
To begin, let's talk about money. I don't know of a person who would choose poverty over riches. Nigerian women (ladies, girls) do not play when it comes to cash—"Ego," "Kudi," "Owo" (they know what I mean). While some might see this as selfish, the reality is that money is a critically important part of a woman's life because it provides the means to achieve her goals. Every woman deserves a sense of comfort and security, and a Nigerian woman actively seeks this.
Before now, a woman might have found this security in the hands of her husband or family. But today, things are different. Nigerian women have always been enterprising and hardworking, and now more than ever, they are channeling that energy into building their own wealth. So, a big shout-out to my strong, vibrant, and hardworking Nigerian women who are working in every capacity, especially in the digital space, to gain something invaluable: financial independence. This independence brings them a profound sense of security and, most importantly, it gives them options. It allows them to be comfortable, to show up when there is a need, and to stand out on their own terms. In the same vein, I greet the capable men who are meeting the needs of their women; it is not an easy thing to do.
A MANLY MAN (ODOGWU)
Furthermore, what a Nigerian woman truly appreciates is a manly man. This isn't a man who shows his strength through his fist on her face or by raising his voice to the roof. Instead, it's a man who shows up—for his family, for his children, and for her. He is a man that stands by her, making it easy for her to support him in return. He comes for her and makes her feel beautiful, not just physically, but in a way that makes her feel like a young child in his care, secure in the knowledge that she has a backbone in him. We call them 'Odogwu.' In my book, an Odogwu isn't just a billionaire or a millionaire with endless cash; he is the father, the husband, and the man who is present and committed to building something beautiful with his family. That is the kind of truly manly man a Nigerian woman loves.
Speaking of Odogwus, here is a crucial piece of advice if you decide to date a Nigerian woman: please do not ask her to pay on the first date. For her, that is the first sign that you are "less than," because she expects you to be what a man is meant to be—someone who takes care of his woman.
CARING AND NURTURING
Nigerian women are inherently caring. This care shows up in different ways: sometimes it's through empathy and kindness, and other times it's by being fiercely supportive. You might even experience it as a form of passive-aggression, which is often a way to show strength even while feeling vulnerable. Whatever version you get, know that it almost always comes from a place of love.
This nurturing spirit stems from the fact that from a very young age, many Nigerian girls are taught to care for the family. Mothers teach their daughters how to take care of a home and a husband. While there is a lot of modern pushback against this traditional upbringing, it remains a core part of how many are raised. One of the beautiful outcomes is that they tend to be incredibly responsive in showing love and care to the people around them, especially those they love. So, if you are in a relationship with a Nigerian woman, make sure to treat her well, because she is surely a queen. A word of caution: do not mistake this goodwill for weakness or confuse it with someone trying to hurt you. As in any group, there are bad apples. You must use your own discernment.
RELIGION AND FAITH
A Nigerian woman loves her religion. I use the word "religion" to respect and encompass all faiths practiced in Nigeria. For many, being religious is a core part of their identity because they are brought up in cultural African homes where they are exposed to faith at birth. It becomes a part of who they are, something they cannot deny. On the other hand, for others, the journey is more personal; they find a religion for themselves, choosing a practice where they feel most safe and connected. As a result, they are deeply committed to their faith. Whether it's a traditional religion, Christianity, or Islam, you will find a Nigerian woman there. However, the way they express this spirituality is diverse. For some, you can tell their denomination by the way they dress. For others, it's reflected in their mannerisms. And for many, you would never be able to tell from the outside. Don't expect to identify a Nigerian woman's spirituality by her appearance, because you will likely get it wrong. Different women live out their religion in different ways.
EDUCATION AND AMBITION
A Nigerian woman loves education, whether it's formal or informal. You will see her determined to get to the top of her ladder, especially in a field she has studied. I don't know if it stems from years of being deprived or being told that she couldn't reach a certain height, but when a Nigerian woman gets an opportunity she has craved, she seizes it. There is a deep need to prove what she is capable of.
This is especially poignant when you check the internet and see stories of girls being stopped from studying, particularly in the northern parts of the country where education is not always a given. In other cases, the societal pressure is simply for a woman to marry a rich man who can take care of her and her family. But for many, the drive to learn, to achieve, and to build something for themselves is an unstoppable force.
NEVER CAUGHT UNFRESH
A Nigerian woman never wants to be caught unfresh. This is a deep-seated principle, and it's relative to her means. It ranges from her morning progression—getting ready and looking put-together for the day—to being well-dressed for any occasion. The point is that her appearance is a priority. I believe this stems from the notion that regardless of your circumstances, you should always be able to present yourself well and be prepared for opportunities at all times.
It's a mindset of resourcefulness. Even with nothing, a Nigerian woman will find a way to make something beautiful. And when the means are there, she will splurge to celebrate her hard work and success.
FANCY WEDDING
I don't think there's a young woman around the world who doesn't dream of a wedding that people will talk about and appreciate. For the Nigerian woman, there is a deep desire for the world to know, see, and understand that, yes, "I am being taken away." Of course, "fancy" is relative and depends entirely on the pocket size of the people involved. For some, fancy might mean a multi-million dollar affair, while for others, it's about doing the absolute best they can with what they have. But in the end, the goal is the same: they want the day to be rich with Instagram-worthy memories, beautiful pictures, and joyful talk—a world often showcased on popular blogs like BellaNaija Weddings. It's a cherished milestone. If it can't be fancy in worth, it can be fancy on IG.
HAIR
Wigs, weaves, and extensions are a massive part of a Nigerian woman's life—a multi-billion dollar industry built on the principle that hair must always be on point. You will hardly find a Nigerian woman rocking only her natural hair for long; there must be something attached to it. For many, it's a rite of passage. I remember growing up and having to wear my natural hair to school because that was the only style accepted. I looked forward to the day I would be a "big girl" and could finally start adding extensions and experimenting with different looks. My mom thankfully allowed me to try everything! Back home in Nigeria, it's common for a woman to get her hair made as often as every week, partly because it's so affordable. However, living abroad in a place like Italy, the dynamic changes. It's quite expensive, so styles are worn for much longer. This is why wigs have become such a viable and popular option—they allow you to change your look in an instant without the high salon costs. It's not just about trends; it's often about hair health. Personally, I'm focusing on wigs right now to help grow my edges back. No matter the weather, an extension or wig is a Nigerian woman's crown.
AN EPITOME OF STRENGTH
A Nigerian woman is the epitome of strength. It's hard to fully describe the resilience required for her daily life. She manages the household, transports the children to school, and handles countless social responsibilities, often without any paid help. Of course, abilities and financial capacities differ from person to person, but the average Nigerian woman relies on her own wits and the support of her family to navigate her world. She is a master of making things work, no matter the circumstances.
FASHIONABLE MEN
Nigerian women always want their men to stand out and look his best at all times. In most cases, the men asks for there woman's opinion on his dress code, while younger girls drop their guards to good looking and presentable men.
SHE LOVES HARD
Finally, a Nigerian woman loves her partner and her family very, very hard. This fierce loyalty can sometimes be taken for granted. Like many women around the world, she might stay in a relationship for the sake of the children, out of a sense of duty, or to avoid gossip about what people will say. She wants the best for her family and will endure a great deal to keep it together. But make no mistake, there is a limit. Once she has been pushed too far and snaps out of it, that love can be gone for good.
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